When I found out that my girlfriend of 2 years of whom I was about to ask to marry me was cheating on me I got pretty angry.
I'm still not completely over her. I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll never really be over her, she was simply too important to me. One 2 year rebound followed by a couple quick 2 month just-for-funzies flings last summer made me realize that I couldn't just eliminate her from my life. Since then I've made a concerted effort to bring her back into my life and thankfully she's done the same with me. We were best friends in College before we started dating and while we might never get back to that point, it's still nice to know that she's still there. For me, removing her from my life wasn't the answer, it was bringing her back into my life that worked.
Dennis is completely right -- each instance is different for each person; It's really about finding what works for you. This isn't even mentioning that not everyone has the ability to bring someone very important to them back into their lives after 3 years of essentially ignoring them as best you could. In the case of losing a family member it is even more difficult.
It's difficult to care about someone after you break up or lose someone so important and close to you for so long. But there is good news, at least. Once you are to the point where you can start caring again, you'll know. For instance, I found a girl who I actually care about - the first one in 3 years.
Plus she's pretty bangin' and quite fun in the sack.
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