Well, light rum is sweet which is why it's mixable to so many cocktails, but rum and coke is always suppose to be mixed with dark rum which is why I always get it. I think the best idea that came to rum is Captain Morgan's Tattoo.
As for womanly drink. It's definitely vodka. My first alcoholic drink was a screwdriver at the age of 12. Vodka had no aftertaste for me or my girlfriends. Like I said, go to a Martini bar. The majority of customers who buy martinis are women. The guys at those bars buy beer.
And Irish Bailey Cream is not to be defined as an alcoholic drink. It's a mixed liquor and it doesn't nearly have the proof that a majority of already mixed and bottled rum, vodka or tequila drinks have. Hypnotiq, Alize, Schnapps are all 34 and below proof drinks. It's probably the official slut drink because it's so cheap and already mixed.